he hates correction!!
i once asked him if he wanted to do the dishes or switch the laundry and he told me to quit patronizing him and to stop treating him like a child, and then he did neither.
he was having a conversation in front of me with my daughter, and when i tried to tell him that i agreed with her, he told me to butt out and that this had nothing to do with me.
he tells me that we (me and the kids) gang up on him all the time.
he pushes the kids too far with teasing and then gets angry when they don’t think he is hilarious, or when they tell him to leave them alone.
he gets angry when i agree with someone that is disagreeing with him.
acts like he doesn’t believe me when i tell him things to the point that i feel like maybe i am lying?
tells me all the time that i am not good at finding the deals and complains when i don’t shop right, and end up spending too much
points out all my mistakes, and does it in front of the kids and others. then tells me he is just trying to help me when i get mad.
tells others how promiscuous i was and how much i drank in college
twice has made me go back to the store (probably more times) to return something that was too expensive, because i didn’t do it right (get the one on sale, etc)
got mad once that the paper napkins were out, then told me we need to use the cloth ones and only use paper when those are all dirty, which is what i do anyway. he was very condescending, like it was something i hadn’t ever thought of before.
has called me stupid, a bitch, dumb, dumbass, etc.
makes fun of me in front of my own friends, tells others their ideas or interests are stupid or horrible
says things like “even mom knows” like i am normally stupid or something.
makes comments about me like “look at you! all interested in that!” just basically being very condescending.
tells me all the time that my choice in tv shows is bad or weird or stupid and same with my music
asking what i did all day when the house was a mess, but never helping me to clean it.
dwells on our mistakes and doesn’t let them go, but gets mad when i bring his past mistakes up and tells me that i shouldn’t hold them against him, because they are in the past
makes jokes about my athletic ability. tells me how clumsy i am
constantly teases me about my grey hair, being short, my small feet
scares me by jumping out at me and things like that, then tells me i take life too seriously when i get mad, even after i have asked him countless times to stop.
makes jokes about how “lazy” i am, even though i know he somewhat means it.
accuses me of taking things that don’t belong to me, but doesn’t apologize when he realizes he was wrong
makes comments whenever i don’t want to cuddle or whatever. like “your stomach hurts because you are so mean to me all the time”
has joked about things like throwing me off a balcony and serving me antifreeze
joked about having sex with other women so they wouldn’t be lonely and his “girlfriends” and tells me how amazing other women are all the time, even though he has cheated on me in the past, and i tell him all the time those jokes aren’t funny
went behind my back and found out i had credit card debt. didn’t talk to me for days. when i finally asked what was wrong, he got mad and told me he was waiting for me to tell him about it.
will go days without talking to me except about the kids, will hardly touch or hug me, and will talk to everyone else but me, and then when i call him out, tells me i am being paranoid.
didn’t have sex for a month, even though he always complains about how we never have it enough. then when we were about to and got interrupted, he complained that we always get interrupted. ??
lied about depositing cash into our account when he actually hid it in his dresser, then lied about how much cash it actually was.
lied about me being on our joint account
lied about cheating on me, denied it flat out when i confronted him
lied about where he was when he was really cheating on me
read my journal then lied and said he didn’t when i saw him do it.
lied about sleeping with other girls while we were broken up in college, then admitted it years later after we were already together again.
lied about kissing another girl at a bar when i asked him about it.
lied about adding me to our gas card. said it wasn’t possible, and when i called the company, they said it would be no problem